How To Support Your Loved One When They Are Battling Addiction

April 2nd, 2021

When it comes to supporting a loved one who is
battling addiction, there is a fine line between supporting and enabling that
can be hard to balance. While they may have successfully completed a rehabilitation program, it
doesn’t mean life will always be smooth sailing. The journey that is recovery
is not an easy or simple one, and this can be especially taxing on a marriage.
Supporting a spouse in addiction recovery can be challenging without the proper
support or knowledge. As a wife or husband, you play an enormous role in your
spouse’s sobriety.

Addiction
can be one of the most difficult situations a married couple faces. Living with
an addicted spouse day in and day out can be so difficult that many marriages
end in separation or divorce if the person struggling with addiction doesn’t
get treatment. According to a recent study, addiction is the seventh most
common reason why marriages end in divorce. Although it may be common, it is
certainly not inevitable. Let us help offer some helpful tips on how to support
your loved one when they are battling addiction.

Educate Yourself

While
you have been living with and in a deep relationship with someone battling
addiction, there are a lot of nuances to addiction
that you may be unaware of. You may have only seen the nastier side of
addiction, like lying, stealing, isolation, or mistreating others, but there’s
more to it. Addiction is a chronic disease and not a choice. By educating
yourself on the subject, you can better understand your loved ones’ actions
during the time of their addiction. This can also help you forgive them and
move forward on the right note.

Join A Support Group

It is
often true that we can’t help others before helping ourselves – think oxygen
masks on an airplane. The first step to this is educating oneself, as mentioned
above. The next step would be to ensure that you are supported in this journey
as well. It’s easy to forget that you aren’t alone in this. There are many
people out there who also have spouses in recovery. It’s important to join a
family program or support group for the families of recovering addicts so you
can connect with others who are in a similar situation. Not only can you learn
from the experiences of others, but you may also be able to motivate someone
else.

Al-Anon,
for instance, helps families of alcoholics with a program that’s similar to the
12 steps of AA. SMART Recovery Family & Friends similarly offers family
groups. You may find other programs at your local church or through your
therapist’s office.

Windmill
Wellness Ranch offers two family support meetings each week that are open to
anyone who has a loved one at Windmill: our family workshop and our SMART
Recovery Family & Friends meeting, both of which are offered in person and
online. Family and friends of Windmill alumni are welcome to keep coming back
to both meetings as an ongoing source of support no matter how long ago their
loved ones have finished our program.

Work As A Team

In
addition to ensuring you have support for yourself, it can also be incredibly
helpful to attend a couples therapy as well. It is likely that in the thralls
of addiction there were tolls taken on the relationship and if you are looking
to build a better one moving forward, couples therapy can be incredibly
beneficial to get those building blocks going and healthy conversations taking
place.

In
addition to you and your spouse, if there are children involved they should
feel supported, too. You’ll find there are helpful programs for children of
addicts as well. Al-Anon has a sub-group called Alateen, which offers support
for teens who have a parent or friend with addiction. Children of any age can
benefit from counseling as well.

Have A Plan In The
Event of A Relapse

No one wants to prepare for their loved one to fail – as
if they are expecting it. However, when it comes to battling addiction, relapse
is incredibly common and often part of the ultimate road to recovery. That’s
why it’s important to have a plan in case relapse does occur – it’ll make
things easier on everyone if there is a plan already in place and hopefully get
the addicted individual back on track faster.

Be Patient

Recovery
is not an easy or straight road. Patience is key to supporting your spouse
during recovery. Keep in mind that they’re also going through physical and
mental changes that can be distressing. Don’t work against them – work with
them. Try to always consider their perspective without enabling their behavior.

Lastly,
if your loved one is battling addiction, get them the help they need and
deserve. You may not know the right steps to take, but our team at Windmill
Wellness Ranch is here to help. Contact us today to learn more about our
holistic program and our commitment to your loved one’s sobriety.